Being a mother is a full-time job and a never-ending job. No matter how your child has grown up, for a mom s/he is always her child and she never stops caring and loving to them. In the journey of motherhood, she never gives herself a priority and that’s why making herself special on Mother’s Day is everyone’s priority. Give these 5 Mother’s Day special gifts which are a must for all mothers.
If you are children then give her a perspective of the importance of these 5 things and, if you are a mother then you must take these special gifts on your own.
As a mother, I knew how hard it is to perform each responsibility of the family. Somehow many times you feel exhausted after the day is over.
Many times we put up a mask of happiness on our faces, the woman behind that mask may tired, exhausted, unhappy, stressed, or just want a little break.
But the responsibilities she plays are endless, and the expectations of others are endless too.
A mother always carries the pressure to be a perfect mother, perfect wife, perfect daughter, and perfect daughter-in-law. She forgets to live her life, she forgets herself.
Her entire world revolves around her children, family, and their expectations.
The burden of suppressed emotions is reflected in her behavior in the form of anger.
Here I’m not only talking about any particular aged mother. Whether she is a working mother or a homemaker, this is the story of every mother.
After being a mother she is being judged for her body, her parenting style, her behavior towards others, and many more. But no one is talking about the inner woman she lived underneath.
No one is talking about how she feels or what she needs.
The pressure of being perfect makes her exhausted and that is the reason that everything falls apart from within.
She cannot able to live a single moment for herself just because of the constant pressure of the responsibilities she has.
On this Mother’s Day give her mother’s Day special gifts to make her a better version of herself. Here I share 5 tools that will change her life fully.
5 Mother’s Day special gifts which are a must for all mothers
Me-time (a date with yourself)
Me-time plays a pivotal role in everyone’s life but when you are talking about the me-time of a mother it is life-changing for her.
You can make ‘me-time’ as a Mother’s Day special gifts
A mother has so many responsibilities, whether it is centered around children, helping with their study and homework, meal time, preparing for school, or sending them to those extracurricular activities.
This is just a glimpse, the whole household chores are still on the list, that pile of unwashed dishes, cleaning, cooking, and the list has never-ending to-dos.
This list will never end hence find out some time for your me-time. It helps you to boost your energy and productivity.
Plan your day in a such way that you have a slot for yourself, to spend time with you and only you.
Choose anything you love, music, dance, gossiping with your friends, or anything that you like and enjoy. Sometimes even a cup of tea with your thoughts also gives you a boost for the remaining day.
At this time forget about all your worries and undone tasks, just leave yourself with you.
You can add your hobby as the me-time as it gives your mind and body the time to relax. It helps you to rejuvenate yourself. You can find yourself by pursuing your hobby.
There is a study that says that when you spare time for yourself you constructively take a me-time, it gives you the feeling of worthiness and fulfillment.
You feel more productive and confident. It is good for your mental health.
Embrace the Imperfection
As a mother, we always want to be the best mom from the first day of motherhood. In the beginning, it feels exciting but as time passes we realize that everything falls apart.
Many things are not in our control and it creates chaos in our life. Many times it feels overwhelming to always be perfect, as a mother, as a wife, as a person, and in many other roles.
But the truth is nothing is perfect, even nature also taught us that there is beauty in imperfections.
When you leave the burden of the perfect mother you find that you will grow as a person and as a mother immensely.
Sometimes we ignore the joyful moments coming the way of motherhood while giving importance to the perfections.
Then what to do instead?
Leave behind the burden of perfection and live in the present moment. Forget about being a super mom or a perfect mom and enjoy every moment of your child.
Spent time with your child even if you have a pile of clothes. Play a pillow fight even if you know that then after the room would be messed but just do it.
You are raising a child, not a house, and you are a mother, not a robot.
Give yourself a space to grow, learn new things, be a little careless just live in the present.
Listen to your Body and Mind
The research shows that it takes a woman 2 years after giving birth to get back to feeling like themselves. 2 years for their hormones to return to normal.
In the early years of motherhood, your body needs a lot of attention and care.
But here I want to add something more. In the whole of motherhood, a lady feels constant stress for her child, and sometimes she begins to behave strangely.
These all begin because she never heard her body and mind. She never prioritizes herself, she never takes care of herself.
She never gives attention to herself, or her needs.
So, listen to your body, do exercise regularly at least 4-5 days per week. Listen to your mind, give some positive thoughts, and find your happy space.
Ask for help if needed. Give yourself time to heal and rejuvenate.
When you start to listen to your body and mind and start to take care of them, in return you will get lots of energy and positivity by yourself.
Your actions will reflect in your relationships, whether it is with your husband or other family members.
It will especially reflect in your children.
Stop Feeling Guilty
Generally, after being a mother everyone is pop up in front of us being an expert. They are always there to give you so much advice, parenting tips, motherhood, childcare and so more.
It feels exhausting when you see everyone around you judging by your parenting style and childcare routine.
No one is there to appreciate your efforts, give you support, or at least show some empathy.
Continuous bombarding of negative comments sometimes affects our self-esteem and we start to feel guilty for that.
We are thinking that we are not a good mother or how can I manage all of these by myself.
But remember these words, you are a mother of your child and no one is taking care of your child better than you.
If you find yourself stuck ask for help from your partner, close one, or the nearby support group. You can ask for help from the expert in their profile.
But never ever feel guilty for not being a super mom or a perfect mom.
There is no one and still, we all are.
You are a mother and it is ok to learn from mistakes.
Parenting itself is the process of learning, unlearning, and relearning.
On this Mother’s Day Give yourself a gift of a commitment to not being guilty for who you are not.
Be proud of who you are, you are a mother, a well-wisher of your child and you are the best mom in the world.
Live Motherhood Fully
Motherhood comes with lots of challenges. Some days are like the best of parenthood and some others are like the question, why do those days even come?
But if you see the whole of motherhood, it seems like a journey. A journey with lots of giggles, waves of laughter, tantrums, and mess.
Sometimes it is beautiful, and sometimes it is a total mess. A day with a proud moment as a mother and another day feels like the worst.
Motherhood is like a roller coaster ride. Just imagine when you go up and feel excited, thrilled, and happy but the next moment feel scared and helpless.
But here is the beauty of motherhood. Just enjoy the ride of motherhood without being anxious about the future.
Taking care of the child, and being anxious about their future are the universal thing. Deal these tough situations with hope and positivity.
That will help you to be calm in those difficult situations and give you the vision for your next move.
Conclusion
Understandably, motherhood comes with lots of challenges and no guidance. Just you with your intuition and that is the reason to take care of yourself plays a pivotal role.
A mother is never off duty but finding some time for herself fuels her up. So, please take baby steps and find your own way to walk on the path of motherhood.
Remember, We all are on the same boat so never feel lonely, ask for help whenever you need it.
Give yourself these 5 Mother’s Day special gifts and see the changes in your life.
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