Old parenting style is still relevant?

In this new era of technology, is an old parenting style relevant or not? Parents always compare children with their own childhood. They often tell their child that in our time our parents did not allow us to watch TV, or our parents slapped us if we had done this kind of behavior and the list will go long.

By doing this, parents try to implement the old parenting style in the new generation. But the question is, Is it still relevant? Does it still work now? Is it ok to do so?

We are living in a world where mental health problems are on pick and people are suffering from mental illness, anxiety, depression, and generational trauma. The science says that a child’s brain develops almost 80% at the age of 7. but emotional intelligence is still under development. The child’s cognitive development is still in progress.

There is a study that shows that when you raise your child with acceptance and unconditional love the chances of developing mental illnesses decrease and that’s why psychologists prefer to no-punishment approach to the children to make them more emotionally strong and for children’s mental well-being.

Here, I’m not defending any parenting style but showing the new perspective according to the psychology research.

What is an old parenting style?

An old-fashioned parenting style is what our parents are used to. We can say that it is an authoritarian style, parents are always in command mode. They gave orders for every task. If the child is not following the rules made by them, they would not hesitate to slap or scold the child.

There is no doubt that they love their child but they hardly express love to them. That’s why children do not feel security or love from their parents. Children are not trainees in an army school so they do not need rules and command all the time. It doesn’t mean that parents should not make rules. There must be boundaries for children but it should be practical and relevant according to their age and situation.

Parents have to make limitations and boundaries in such a way so the child does not feel insecure or suffocated. Children know their boundaries very well and your concern too. But We should not deprive them of their childhood.

To control them all the time and restrict everything that child wants to do is not going to work nowadays. The reasons are so many.

In what ways the ‘Old Parenting Style’ does not work

Technology plays a big role

It is the age of technology where everyone is connected to the internet, laptop, mobile, and social media. Even we cannot imagine a day without any gadgets. Internet is the root cause of addiction in children, especially youngsters and teenagers. They have made their world on the internet and it is quite difficult to make them disconnected.

Mostly mobile usage by children become the most conflicted topic these days and we all are directionless on how to control children’s mobile usage.

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Punishment doesn’t work

In the old parenting style, parents were used to slapping and scolding. They think that yelling can make their child listen. punishment could make their behaviour better but the reality is completely opposite of their thinking.

Physical punishment or abusive words have only adverse effects on their mind. It makes your child feel insecure and unloved. Children develop low confidence and low self-esteem which affect their personality.

They are likely to have anxiety and depression at a younger age. I believe there are no parents who want their children become lack confidence and unhappy and struggle with their suppressed emotions.

New-age parenting works with a positive mindset. Parents give rewards for their good behavior instead of giving punishment. The chances of good behavior increase when parents appreciate the child’s efforts and their behavior.

When parents instill conscious parenting they become a better parent as well as a better human being.

Authoritative works instead of authoritarian

In authoritarian parenting or the old parenting style, children feel ignored and lack confidence. Children still love their parents but somehow the conflict between them increases eventually as children grow.

They feel exhausted in such an environment and it is harmful for their health as well as their relationship with you. As a parent, it is our responsibility to nurture them in such a way so they can thrive to their potential. You also have the responsibility to develop a healthy parent-child relationship so both parents and children can grow to their best.

Authoritative parenting makes children confident, smart, well behaved. They make their decision on their own and that makes them more responsible towards their action. This will instill accountability in children and make them future-ready.

Modern parenting tends to be authoritative, makes the relationship between parents and children more beautiful, and creates a strong bond.

Imposition

In the old parenting style, parents behave like superior to the children. They think their child is not able to do anything by themselves. They make all the decisions on behalf of the child and sometimes they do not need necessity to ask for their child’s will. Imposition makes children dependent and they feel a lack of confidence.

New parenting styles, for instance, positive parenting style or conscious parenting, do not impose on children. Parents guide them whenever they need help and let them decide what they want to do. It will give them the freedom to do their daily chaos. They become independent with their thoughts. They become more confident and have a clear vision. In a way, parents teach them how to think instead of what to think and also accept their perspective.

Conclusion

Well, I’m not saying that the old parenting style is not good. It become less relevant in this digital era where freedom of speech is celebrated because of social media. We cannot follow a particular style of parenting.

Parents should take action according to the nature of their child and in which environment the child belongs. There is not a perfect combination for parenting style. Your love, care for your child, and perspective show you the right way of parenting.

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