As parents, we always worry about our child’s future, and it is normal. It is our duty to shape their future, to guide them to be better person. We want to develop their personality in such a way that they can deal easily with their life. In this article, you explore how praising develop child’s personality.
Their personality is shaped in a way that you praise them. Your praising led them to another level of their development. Praising is an essential part of parenting. But there it comes with some pros and cons.
Praising in the right manner gives them the right way of action. When praising is going in the wrong way or at the wrong time, or even the wrong word and attitude, it will not work as you desire.
Here are some points to be noted while praising your child.
How does praising develop child’s personality?
As you all know, everyone likes to be praised and appreciated, and when we are talking about children, they love to be praised. The research says that when you praise a child for their specific behaviour, the chances of repeating that behaviour increase.
Parents can use positive reinforcement behavior to encourage good behavior in children without making them feel small or ignoring their real emotions.
Children see praising as a winning reward. Praising, especially, can shape a child’s behaviour. There are two ways for praising, first, just routine, normal praise that we use in our everyday life. The second type of praise is to develop a specific behaviour. For young children, praise should be very enthusiastic and effusive.
There are some techniques for praising your child, and when you use your words wisely, their effectiveness becomes more powerful
When should it be praised?
It is also important that at what time do you praise your children.
Your praise should be given immediately after you catch your child doing something good. It will increase the effectiveness of your praise. They will notice that you give attention to them, which creates more excitement for them, and they try to do that work with more engagement and perfection.
For example, when your child plays nicely by themselves with toys, say with a gentle voice, ‘Darling, you are playing so nicely with your toys, I love watching you like this’.
Praising instantly makes a child more focused as they know why they are being praised. They know very well that the behaviour done by them earns rewards in the form of praise. They are likely to repeat that behaviour more often.
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Don’t praise them too much
It is important to praise your child, even though you have to be careful not to praise too much. There are lots of side effects of overpraise. It will make your child frustrated and overwhelmed, as overpraising they feel more pressurised to be perfect. The pressure to be perfect creates a negative impact on their mental health as they feel stressed to be always good and perfect.
They may also start to suppress their emotions, which leads them to develop other behavioural issues
The pressure of completing the task makes them anxious, and the fear of failure affects their performance. Make sure that your praise does not create a feeling of stress. In other words, ‘too much praise is equal to too much stress’.
When you notice that a specific good behaviour appears continuously, encourage them in the form of praising words to make efforts to go outside of their comfort zone. For instance, you see that your toddler is good at colouring the picture, then encourage them to draw something like flowers, the moon, or the sun, etc.
How to make your praise effective?
Children are very sensitive, so you can make a strong impression with your words in their minds to make them optimistic and self-esteem. Pay attention to the little things that they are doing; sometimes a small thing can make a huge transformation.
Your praise can make a strong impression on their mind; it all depends on your words, that how they develop their mindset and personality. So, whenever you praise them, choose your words wisely and always speak in a gentle voice. Your tone of voice plays a big role in making your praise more effective.
Final Thought
Children have different phases of development. As they grow, they pass through all the developmental stages. So, don’t worry if you see someone else’s child has grown faster or slower than your child. Trust the process and be patient. And the most important don’t judge yourself as a failed parent. Personality development is a complex topic, so just do your work and keep faith in yourself as well as in your child.
We all have different skills and abilities. So, we have to find out our child’s ability to sharpen their skill.
I hope you may get value from this article. Please share your thoughts in the comment section, and start a conversation.
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