Children mostly being reluctant to study seriously and that is normal at this age. They want to play all the time, doing masti and doing fun activities all day. And we all know that how our education system works. Some how it is boring and dimming and the pressure of performance also makes them boring. So, it is obvious that the child is being reluctant to study.
Even in my school time I did not like to learn some subject as it was boring, especially history. Maybe you also had faced difficulties in your school time.
Now in time parent are aware of the importance of education and that is the reason we send our child to extra tuition after school.
Children faces too much pressure not only from school or tuition but also from parent. Parent force children to study extra time at home and doing self-study.
Well, that is surely a good thing to do self-study but think deeply about your child and take a look at their situation. They already spent 5 to 6 hours in school and have studied average four and half to 5 hours.
Then after they have to go to tuition, where they study almost 2 to 3 hours. After that they have homework to complete.
Just think how they feel exhausted after doing almost 7 hours of study.
At home they want some time to relax and refresh. Here I’m not telling you to not to tell them to self-study but just be aware of their situation.
Be sensitive and empathetic towards your child.
Here I want to share some points that will give you some idea how to make your child comfortable with self-study.
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5 tips for parents whose child is being reluctant to study
Make study enjoyable
Studying continuously makes children bore and that is obvious. Doing study in a fun way makes study more enjoyable and interesting.
It is proven that a human brain can not focus continuously more than 45 minutes. So, you can take a short break, snack treat as a reward to make it interesting and enjoyable.
You can also add brain tricking games, puzzle or quiz to make study time fun time. Thus, you can give some time to your child to relax mind.
Reward their Hard work
Reward is also a part of praising but first you should know how to give rewards. Rewarding works is exactly like a praising.
Parent should reward children for their hard work not for the result.
Rewarding child for their hard work encourage them to do focus on study.
When parent reward child for their hard work child feel less frustration. Child can focus on the learning instead of performance and that’s why it’s makes positive impact on their result.
Break Up the Syllabus
When we see the syllabus, it looks like a mammoth task and feels like an unachievable task.
But it should be revised properly to perform well in examination. So, make a small and simple step to make achievable. You can break up the whole syllabus into small pieces.
This should be done with each and every subject. Now, it looks like easy and achievable, not only for you but also for your child.
This will make the vision clear to what to do next.
SMART Goal for study
We all heard about the S.M.A.R.T. goal. SMART is stand for specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and time bound.
It sounds funny to use business language in parenting article but it makes sense.
Planning the smart goal for study after cutting the syllabus into small pieces makes your task easy. This will make study planning achievable, relevant and in time frame.
It makes you clear to your goal, gives less pressure and you can keep track of your progress.
Teach this to your child at a very young age so they can be habitual with this technique. So, after some time they can be doing this practice by their own.
Make a chart and stick to the wall or at the place where you and your child both can see and keep track of your plan.
You can also be creative in this by giving a star or smiley face on chart after finish the task. You can make it rewarding too, by giving reward for achieving specific star.
In this way they would be encourage to finish their study as soon as possible.
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Be mindful
When you deal with your child many times happens that child become more reluctant to study and rude with parents.
That is normal because they are in their learning age and they are still learning to regulate their emotions.
Yelling and scolding is not the solution for their misbehaviour.
Do not take their words personally as there are many factors behind their behaviour.
Keep yourself calm, talk to your child, listen them, do communication with your child.
First, listen them carefully, think about them, then take an action.
To give your child punishment, being abusive does not makes sense or cannot solve the problem.
Find out child’s skill and interest is also a big task for parents. And the most important thing is focus on the learning instead of scoring.
Make your child skilful instead of making them robot who works on the command.
Exam time is hard for us as parents want their child on the path of success and study is the first step toward the success. But remember that they are children and it is their right to live their childhood.
Give them space to grow naturally. They have just begun their journey, make their childhood memorable.
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