Parents always want that their child become confident. They always try so hard to boost child’s confidence but somehow, they don’t get the result as they expect. Here I’m talking about 11 best ways to boost confidence in child.
What is confidence?
It is a simple question but the answer is so deep. Confidence is the feeling or belief that one can have. Means it should be flow from inside of the person and it happen only if one can have faith on oneself.
The belief of ‘I can do it’ instead of ‘I can’t’. It is the first feeling where confidence can arise and we have to work on that in such a way to boost confidence in child.
1 ) Let them do Mistakes
Let them do mistakes and don’t get upset about it because mistakes are the first step toward the learning. Means if someone does not try new things there is no chance of making mistake. One can only makes mistake if s/he tries something new.
Mistakes makes them learner and also inspire them to stretch their comfort zone which leads them to their growth and eventually boost confidence level.
2) Encourage them to try new things
Children always want to experience new thing and want to learn but many parents resist all the time without aware of the outcome. They create an anonymous danger in child’s mind and scares their children. There is no doubt that parents have concern for their child but scaring them all the time and not allow them for doing anything is not quite fair.
Instead of encourage them to do their experiment under your supervision and let them encourage for experience the world in their own way. They will learn new things and skill by knowing themselves that boost their confidence level. Always interrupting make them timid.
3) Allow kids to fail
To be fail is not a full stop, it’s a comma that allows you to continue what you want. Failure gives you the chance to step back and relearn things. It gives you the courage to start again and win. So, whenever you find your child is struggling with failure show them new perspective of failure.
Allow them to fail, as it gives them courage to face any situation where they never afraid of failure. It became a lifelong learning for them. And when you support them in their tough situation, they build up a trust in you and it reflect in their personality. There arises a confident child in front of you.
4) Celebrate efforts not the outcome
While praising we mostly make a mistake. We praise the final result instead of their efforts which create pressure on them to make themselves perfect. Initially it looks good but slowly child feels lost and unconfident.
So, whenever you find your child doing better praise their effort instead of outcome. Praise their perseverance so they believe on themselves which helps them to be confident. Praising in such a way makes them confident and fast learner.
5) Help kids find their passion
Children are smart learner but it does not mean that they are good in all activity and they are all-rounder. They have their own ability from which they are unknown. Do not force them to do all the activity that you want to teach them, instead of help them to find out their passion, what they like and what makes them happy.
When they engage in their passionate field they automatically thrive immensely. It all reflects on their personality and help them to boost their confidence level.
6) Teach them to set goal
Goal is very important in everyone’s life. It is necessity of our growth. But do you know at what age one should learn to set a goal. The Answer is as soon as one is able to learn.
Teach your child to set the goal and all aspect of the goal, means how to set goal, how your goal should look like, how to make it achievable and how to put it in the timeframe. All the things about goal that helps them in their growth.
7) Give them responsibility
Give them responsibility according to their age and their ability. But remember do not be harsh on them.
First of all, make them comfortable and prepared with the chore that you want them to do and then after start to give them responsibility. Show them your trust so they start believe on themselves and take the responsibility without hesitance. They feel more confident when you put trust on them.
When you give them responsibility you can see the confidence on their face when they complete a task. But remember give them the task that they can do easily so that the task does not become headache of your little one.
8) Embrace imperfections
No-one is 100% in this world; all have flaws and these imperfection makes a person unique.
Your child is also a unique because s/he has own strengths and flaws. So, remember that you do not have to make your child perfect but have to accept their imperfections and guide them how to accept their own imperfection.
It doesn’t mean that you never point out their mistakes but making too much pressure on them to make them perfect is not a good choice.
Then what should a parent do?
First accept them with their imperfection. Do not create pressure on them by your words or gesture, appreciate their efforts and encourage them to improve themselves without comparison with others. Your words should be less but still effective in such a way that your child doesn’t feel embarrass or lonely.
9) Set them up for success
Well, what does it means? When we first read this sentence the question strike in our mind that why should we set them up for success. The answer is the success can not be easily digestible. It is hard for many to stay focussed after hit the success and that is the reason to set them up for their success.
Allow them to fail, embrace imperfection and setting them up for success these all steps help you to boost their confident.
10) Encourage to express their feelings
When someone express their feelings, they feel relaxed. They learn the importance of sharing feeling and that makes them emotionally stable and strong.
Along with that they learn how the peace of mind is important. And a relaxed and calm mind has the power to believe on one self and can achieve whatever they want. These all process boost their confidence.
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11) Your love is Magical
Your love to your child creates magical effect on their growth and development. No matter what is the age of your child, they are always a child from heart ever. Your attachment and engagement with your child make them feel secure.
Your child always needs your support and love. So, make sure to keep alive your special bond with your child. They started believe on themselves when they see your unconditional love and support. They will not afraid of doing any new task because you have sown the seeds of trust and bravery.
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