Parenting journey is very interesting and challenging. In my perspective we born as a parent on the day when our child was born. This is the reason we have to learn on each and every moment as a parent. Do you know what we have learnt as a parent?
In my journey I have learnt so many things and I love to share it with you.
Anxiety is my problem, not my child’s
As a parent we always take a bag of worry for child. Whatever the situation or time, we feel anxiety over their study, health, behaviour or development. If there is nothing to worry about, we still feel worried for them.
Remember – Your child has his own personality, learning techniques, own thought. That’s why they are different from others and even from you. You suppose to guide them in their life. You need to make your child confident not timid. For that first you should leave the habit of being worried or anxious for them. Let them experiment, let them explore.
I can’t control my child’s behaviour but should control mine
Many time we try to control child’s behaviour and as a parent I would say it is normal. But we should change this habit as soon as possible. Because it doesn’t work.
Remember- You can guide them through your behaviour. In other word we cannot control our child’s behaviour but we should control ours. It makes an intense impression on child’s mind as they learn how to manage anger and what is the right way to express feelings.
I’m not the only one teaching my child
Well, I don’t know if you agree with me or not but I definately say that I’m not the only one teaching my son who is 14. He also teaches me a lot. Even in his young age he teaches me in his sweet and cute voice and corrects me when he feels that I’m wrong.
Remember- Your child is a unique, and his thought too. We born as a parent along with our child and so on it is ok to make mistakes and to solve it. You have to understand that sometime children can think better than us. That’s why you should be interested for their opinion.
I’m not the only one who teach my child
In their childhood their world is limited to us or the family members. When they grow up, they stretch their boundary. They are in contact with others, neighbour, friends, teachers etc. They spent more time at school and in outdoor activities than us. Internet and social media also play a big role now a days. It is the reason that sometime we are thinking that from where they learn this or that or why they behave so different or weird.
Remember- Sometime they learn from others and it is ok. It is the part of their development. If you find something wrong about that you should try to talk with your child and try to understand what they are going through. Without scolding or yelling stand by their side and guide them. This is the important part of the parenting and specially if your child is in pre-teen or teen.
My child models me
Parents are the first role model for the child. They start to copying us in their early age and they keep doing so their entire life. How we behave and how our habits are making a dip impression on their mind and it stays forever.
Remember- your child model you sometime and sometime not, it is all upon them. May be in some situation they follow you in other situation they model others. They influence by any person but chances are more from the parents specially in their young age. So, no matter what are you trying to teach them, modelling is the first key.
Self-care is an important part of parenting
As a parent sometimes we ignore ourself just because of the responsibilities and hectic schedule.This is injustice for you as well as your child because you can not give something that you do not have. Self-care is an important part of parenting.
Remember- give some me time to yourself, especially mommas. Because in India it still the mother’s first and the most responsibility to take care of child. Steal at least 10 minutes a day and just relax. Do what you love the most, dancing, singing, yoga or gym. DO it for yourself, it’ll give you some happiness and a booster dose of energy in your entire day.
My disrespectful behaviour cannot keep the rules and boundaries
We always set a rules and boundaries for child, and children always try to break the rules and boundaries, no matter what it is, may be extra gaming hours or anything. It is very normal and common in all age group of children. Then after we start scolding, yelling and sometime give punishment. Your disrespectful behaviour triggers some other problems with your child.
Remember- Try to make rules reasonable that child does not feel suffocation or under pressure. Give them reminder of when they about to touch the limits. Whenever you talked about the rules and boundaries your behaviour should be respectful and the tone of voice is mild.
We continuously grow as parent and learn many more things in parenting journey. After being a parent, I become the better version of me and I feel really glad to share this all experience with you.