As a human being, we always learn from our mistakes, but when we talk about raising children there is no second chance. As a parent, we think that we don’t have any chance for a mistake. our wish is always to be an ideal parent and we are trying our best for it.
So, we are always trying to be the best for our child and then we feel like there is something that we are missing out and we miss our goal to be an ideal parent. There is a question for you, “do you want to be an ideal parent or the real parent?”
When we first hold our baby, feelings are on the top of the height. Even no one can explain that emotion in words.
In the flood of emotions, each parent gives a silent promise to keep them happy, fulfill all wishes, and give comfort. The most prominent promise is to love them from the bottom of the heart and to be the ideal parent.
When time passes and the child grows, time by time new challenges come in a way. Knowing or not the mistakes are made and the impact of those mistakes are reflected by our child’s behaviors often.
The relationship is compromised. Thus, our relationship goes like a roller coaster ride, we blame ourselves and also our children for these clashes. Sometimes we blame them for not being sensitive with us.
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What is an Ideal Parent?
The definition of an ideal parent must be varied from one to another. The reason behind this is that there is not a perfect man on earth and so on there is not an ideal parent. We all are unique and so our children are. That’s why the parenting style is too. So, there is no definition of an ideal parent and a perfect parenting style.
It is just a fictional concept of our desire to be perfect parents which leads us to parental guilt and constant grief
Now, the question should be How to improve our parenting skills? How to be a real parent?
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How to be a real parent?
The question sounds odd but it is contextual. Parent through the eyes of your child (loving, caring, supportive, trustable, etc.)
How to improve parenting skills?
There are many parenting techniques out there, but we still cannot say which one is the perfect fit for us. There should be a combination for any parenting style and you have to decide at what time which technique to use.
There is a concept of conscious parenting where parents work consciously not only on children but also on themselves to make them a better version of parents and a person,
We always try to control our children and try to fix their behavior. We give them punishment, shout at them yell at them. Sometimes we slap or scold them, and if you notice that after applying all these there is no outcome of your action. Instead, the situation becomes worse over time, and out of control. We are getting confused, frustrated, sometimes hopeless, and restless about the situation.
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We wander for solutions and fall into the guilt trap as we lose connection with our children.
Someone has said that there is always a solution to any kind of unsolved question.
Here, are some techniques to apply that make your relationship with your child more comfortable whether he/she is a toddler, teenager, or adult.
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1) Give them unconditional love – The basis of parenting
2) Do modeling – Children always copy us. So, be the way you want them to be.
3) Listen to them carefully – Your attention and care what they actually want from you
4) Give some free space – Do not be a helicopter parent.
5) Set Boundaries – It should be firm and realistic
6) Acknowledge them for their efforts – and encourage them
7) Have quality time – The most loved gift that you can give your child
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Conclusion
In this digital era, it is understandable that parents are dealing with unexpected situations many times. However parenting itself is a process of learning, unlearning, and relearning. We understand how overwhelming parenting itself is.
Find your support, ask for help if needed, and do your best. You are not alone in this journey, we all are on the same page and that is the reason we try to provide you an empathetic environment so you can freely get help.
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Nice one , it’s really great knowledge for me as a parent . Thanks for these guidance
You’re so welcome! I’m really glad the guidance resonated with you. If you ever have more questions or need further support, I’m here for you! 😊 Keep up the amazing work you’re doing as a parent!