Teenagers or we called adolescents, this age is so sensitive and full of confusion, for them as well as for parents. Do you know what teenager wants from parents?
May be some parents will say, oh, what is new in this? They want some cool clothes, accessories and latest smart phone or some cool and trendy gadgets.
Well, these all answer are wrong. They love gadgets, smartphone and etc, but that all are materialistic.
Here, I have some points to explain
Understanding
Teenager and preteen children are in their puberty age. They are flooded with so much hormones and they don’t know what is going through with their body and mind.
They are getting moody or sometime get irritated, for reason or no reason.
This situation is going so confusing that even parents don’t know how to handle them. The confusion is from both the sides but the difference is we (parents) had already experienced this situation and they are experiencing it for the first time.
So, try to be generous and understand that they are going from child to adult. Make it less confusing by understand them. Still, they are unaware from many things and there is still a child living inside of them.
Support
This age is full of distraction and on other side it is an important for academic growth too. They are dealing with so many tasks. In modern time the distraction is everywhere, social media, online gaming and many more.
They also want to do everything right but the distraction makes them lost in a way. They are juggling with it. And in this difficult time, they need your support.
They need morale support from you. You love them indeed; they knew it already but it is the time to show your love in the different manner.
Spend time together, talk on the different topics, talk about your mistakes in a funny way. Build a bridge between you and your child so that your child feels secure in this hard time.
Listen them carefully
Adolescent like to talk much if you give them comfortable environment and if you have built communication bridge. They would like to be listened, specially by their parents. They excited to share their experiences with you.
And you know the extra advantage of listening, you can peek directly into their life. In the conversation they will give you a full day report, like what they have done at school, who are their friends and what incidents happen in their day.Â
Respect their thought
Many times, we do not listen them as we think that they do not know anything or their opinion is not important.
Teenager are not like a child; they capture everything in their mind. They have their own thought to represent. They are not our carbon copy so they do not think exactly like parents.
Many times, they do argument or back answering. It does not mean they want to disrespect us. They want to put their opinion.
It is possible that many time we are not comfortable with their ideology and do not agree with them.
I do not want to say that parents are wrong but want to say they are new generation and their thoughts may be differed from us.
They do not want to make us agree with their opinion, they want from us to just respect their thoughts.
Just respect their thought and never over react in any kind of situation. Take a deep breath and handle with calm mind.
Love
Teenagers are in the most confusing period of their life. Sometime they behave like they are grown and sometime like a little baby.
Yeah, they are still baby from inside and that baby never grow up. It always wants love from parents.
It is the most amazing fact that a person in any age want love from parents exactly like he or she receive in childhood and it is true.
So, show your love to your child and tell them that you still love them.
Mentorship
Teenagers do not like a lengthy and boring lecture. If you give them lecture daily, maybe they avoid you and not listen to you.
It doesn’t mean that you do not have to tell anything and let them do whatever they want.
But instead of lecturing guide them like a mentor. Give them short and effective sentence that they like to follow. Your sentence should be short and crisp.
Strong Bond
At this stage arguments from your child become strong and many time it is possible that you both have a hard time. It is ok because most of the parents going through this. Even I have faced this kind of situation. At that time just take a pause let your mind cool and then start conversation again in a better way.
Many time we feel the bond with child is going to break or children are not like us, they not respect us anymore. Well, this all thoughts are worthless. They also want strong bond with us. They do not want to make distance from us but somehow, these all happens. Either because of our misunderstanding or generation gap.
The truth is they want love, care and respect from us and also want to give us as much they can.
To make strong bond is not as simple and not as difficult as it looks. For that you have to be very careful.
A little freedom
Teenagers are smart and intelligent. They know the rules and boundaries because they are used to it from their childhood.
Just because of our habit to being worried all the time we started doing Helicopter parenting. They feel that they have lost their freedom.
You have to understand that they are now grown baby and want some freedom from us. In this age they become little secretive and do not want to share everything with you.
You can observe them and their behaviour, if you find something unusual take action but till then give some space and freedom.
Trust
As a parent we think that our child is still a little baby that they can not do anything by themself. Or we feel that they are unable to do their own chores but this kind of thinking is like obstacle in their development. Have trust on your grown kid give them confidence. They also like to do task that they have never done before. Show your trust to them and you can see the impressive change in your child.
I hope I have cleared some point. But if you found something missing tell me in the comment below.
Thank you for reading.